Generosity - A Breath of Song

Published on: April 26, 2023

100. Bridging Hearts Song with guest Lisa G. Littlebird

Song: Bridging Hearts Song
Music: Lisa G. Littlebird

Lyrics

Both our needs have gotta get met here.
Both our needs -- *we're part of a team (*it's part of a plan)
So let's tend the fear, and find the bigger picture.

I care about you. (I care about you!)
You care about me. (You care about me!)
This is what it feels like in family.
I care about you. (I care about you!)
You care about me. (You care about me!)
Help us find our love in this ecology.

Notes: I could think of no better way to honor the 100th episode of this podcast than to talk with Lisa G. Littlebird, my first mentor in the community songleading movement. We explore how she uses the power of songs for different purposes, including the one she shares during our conversation which helps bridge hearts during difficult situations. We talk about songs as sorcery to shift energy, and how exquisite it is to create a spell-song. How to find right-size in relationship with each other; how we woo each other into community and song, and "accompany each other in our walk toward liberation." The "inescapable confronting tenderness of inner listener" in relation to our own voices, "the power of the voice to unblock channels of energy." How responding to racial injustice grows out of relationship, not as a short-term response... "I'm not looking for your attention for a week, I'm looking for your love for a lifetime." What it means to have an open heart in both yes and no, when to harmonize with normative culture, and when to align with one's own truth even if it steps outside of the "normal." Grab something to drink or nosh on, take us on a walk or a drive, and let's talk about song and community! You'll hear me making up harmonies on the spot as Lisa and I are singing (she couldn't hear me, so it was all good! ?)

Songwriter Info: Lisa G. Littlebird facilitates group singing as a transformational personal practice, healing art, and to foster healthy communities. She is the creator of Littlebird Flight School, a community song leader training program with more than 400 graduates worldwide. She also founded the 160-member Wholehearted Chorus in Big Sur & Monterey, CA and has been on the faculty at Esalen Institute for 15 years.

Sharing Info: Yes -- The song is free to share in oral tradition groups, but please contact Lisa for recording and/or performing permission

Links:
Chumash people: https://www.sbnature.org/collections-research/anthropology/chumash-life/
Ram Dass quote: “if you feel like you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family”
https://www.gaia.com/article/who-is-ram-dass-the-wonderful-magical-be-here-now-guru
Songleader Flight School: https://thebirdsings.com/songleader-training/
Lisa's Website: https://thebirdsings.com/
Song-a-day project: https://thebirdsings.com/OLD/song-a-day.html
Oprah Magazine, Jan 2019 “Sing, Sing a Song” Article:
https://www.magzter.com/stories/Lifestyle/The-Oprah-Magazine/Sing-Sing-a-Song
Denver Women’s Chorus: https://denverchoruses.org/dwc/
Esalen Institute: https://www.esalen.org/
Dr. Ysaye M. Barnwell: https://www.ymbarnwell.com/bio
Sweet Honey in the Rock: https://sweethoneyintherock.org/
Laurence Cole: http://www.laurencecole.com/
Peter Gabriel: “Passion” https://petergabriel.com/release/passion/
Nightsong album: https://thebirdsings.com/nightsong/
Lisa's song library: https://thebirdsings.com/song-library/
Lisa's Patreon: patreon.com/thebirdsings

Nuts & Bolts: 4:4, Aeolian, unison with a little call and response

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Published on: March 22, 2023

95. Joy To Your Heart with guests Cathy Baker and Dick Jackson

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Song: Joy To Your Heart
Music & Words: Cathy Baker and Dick Jackson

Lyrics

I want to bring joy to your heart,
I want to bring joy to your (+) heart.
I want to bring joy to your heart,
Joy, joy, joy!

Joy! Joy! Joy!
Let me bring you some Joy! Joy! Joy!
*I want to pour it on ya* Joy! Joy! Joy!
Let me share my Joy! Joy! Joy!

(this to your that, this to your that...)
Examples:
wind-sail or hugs-heart
blue-sky or soup-bowl
*line is changed to suit the bold-faced pair*

Notes: Lately, I've been reading closely the lengthy gratitude lists that follow any achievement, struck by the glories created in collaboration. Cathy Baker and Dick Jackson are both work and life partners... so I had many questions for them about collaboration. How do you nurture trust, how do you communicate through disagreement? They took over the reins of the large and thriving Getttin' Higher Choir from beloved coleaders Siobhan Robinsong and Denis Donnelly -- such changes are often fraught with disappointments and unhappiness -- yet they seemed to me to have negotiated the transition with grace and generosity. Cathy describes "A whole lot of good will and an understanding of what ultimately really matters here… that we each feel completely heard," and according to Dick, “A little bit of meditation practice can go a long way.” Hear, too, about their thoughts about imposter syndrome (hint: it's real!), "only the freshest" choral arrangements, the difference between "performer" and "facilitator of people singing in harmony," and more... including Cathy's exuberant, warm-hearted wish, partially inspired by large bus windshield wipers -- "I want to bring joy to your heart!"

Songwriter Info: Cathy was once the shy middle kid of 5 siblings where singing as a family was just part of everyday life. She always loved singing, especially around campfires, on road trips, wilderness trips or anywhere outside. Always seeking harmony, she got over much of her performance shyness by bringing groups of friends together to sing. She now directs the Gettin' Higher Choir with her life partner, Dick Jackson, and she is on the leadership team for both The Ubuntu Choirs Network and the Community Choir Leadership Training (CCLT) program in Victoria, BC. Cathy is active in her local Unitarian Universalist community where Dick is the Musical Director. Together, Cathy and Dick provide musical leadership for Canadian UU camps and Canadian national UU services. They both welcome the opportunity to bring members of the Gettin' Higher Choir to "Sing When Asked To" community events. Dick was fortunate to have singing in the home with his Mom from an early age, and kept involved with singing, school band and organ, later with percussion, piano and a few stints in opera chorus. A keen observer of his excellent music leaders over the years, he is grateful to be able to make this a shared joyful vocation with Cathy.

Sharing Info: The song is free to share but Cathy always welcome financial and/or networking support if/when folks are so moved. Do let Cathy know where this song has travelled. Have fun...may it bring JOY to your heart!

Links:
Gettin’ Higher Choir: http://www.gettinhigherchoir.ca/index.php
Gettin’ Higher Choir YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thegettinhigherchoir8002
Community Choir Leadership Training Program: http://www.communitychoirleadership.com/
Ubuntu Choir Network: http://www.ubuntuchoirs.net/index.php
Pat Wictor: https://patwictor.com/
Cee Cee’s Climb by Pat Wictor, performed by Brother Sun https://youtu.be/fkTVK2Yg-JI
Dick’s album that’s affected him strongly: Joe Jackson “A Big World”
Dick suggestion for an artist:Joe Jackson: http://joejackson.com/
Cathy’s album that’s affected her strongly: Peter Paul & Mary: Peter, Paul & Mommy
Cathy’s suggestion for an artist: Connie Kaldor: https://www.conniekaldor.com/
Patti Page: Mocking Bird Hill: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U7zrMzVNYwo
God Sees the Little Sparrow Fall: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnN1Cu7RZ-Q
A sound Cathy feels strongly about – Pacific Chorus Frogs: https://acousticatlas.org/item/2433

Nuts & Bolts: 4:4, Major, zipper song

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Published on: February 22, 2023

91. You Are Enough

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Song: You Are Enough
Music & Words: Louise Blackburn

Lyrics
You are enough
Go gentle on the earth
Go gentle on yourself
You are enough

Notes: It was amazingly fortuitous -- Louise Blackburn and I had agreed on releasing her song as episode #91, and then it turned out that recording episode #91 live would be just the right time to celebrate 25,000 downloads -- and we had the perfect song in place. In June of 2021, I had searched long and hard for a podcast I could listen to from which I could learn songs for well being and more about the people who shared these songs. I couldn't find it, so I started A Breath of Song together with Patty Piotrowski, constantly reminding myself that who I am, what I bring to the table, is enough. I love the way Louise's song embeds that idea in my brain with gentleness and persistence. The spacious, simple harmonies create an elegant call, while the response feel like it's tugged out of my heart. Recording live in front of a full gallery Zoom audience was a novel way to create an episode, and I believe you can feel the connection I felt with the group and we all felt with you who listens now across the space/time continuum.

Songwriter Info: Louise feels incredibly lucky to run choirs, workshops, festivals, singing for wellbeing groups and yoga and voice sessions across Birmingham, Walsall, Sutton Coldfield and Sandwell in the United Kingdom. Her songs are an absolute joy of creation for her and have been sung all over the world including New Zealand and America. It makes her very emotional to think of them being sung and enjoyed by other people.

Sharing Info: The song is free to share but Louise always welcomes financial and/or networking support if/when folks are so moved.

Links:
Louise's website: www.voicesentwined.co.uk
Louise's Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4oTIDDsibmihC771Wvy1Mh

Nuts & Bolts: 4:4, Aeolian, 3-part harmonized call with response

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Published on: December 21, 2022

82. Whoever You Are

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Song: Whoever You Are
Words by Rev. Ana Levy-Lyons
Music by Adam Podd

Lyrics
Whoever you are, whomever you love;
Wherever you are on your life's journey...
you are welcome here!

Notes: I learned this song from Adam at the end of the summer at a group singing weekend workshop, and immediately decided to use it for my Pocket Songs welcome song during the fall, not only because of the generous, wide-open welcome of the words, but because of the way the music backs up the message. The lift and lightness of the rhythm, and the enjoyment of slightly surprising notes (I particularly love the first "are" of the tenor line, for example), the way we move from unison into connected harmonic diversity -- these musical things help me FEEL welcoming. Sometimes I shift the words to sing it to myself, as a reminder that whoever I am, whomever I love, wherever I am on this journey, I am welcome... and when I feel genuinely accepted as I am, it is so much easier to extend that welcome and acceptance to others.

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Songwriter Info: Adam Podd (he/him/his) is a Vermont-bred, Brooklyn-based music director, pianist, organist, bassist, composer, and arranger. As a pianist, Adam specializes in blues, jazz, and gospel. He plays regularly around NYC with his twin brother Matt, and their jazz and blues band Mimi and the Podd Brothers. He also plays keys, bass and music directs for singer/songwriter Dan Mills. I met Adam as he co-led a workshop on Star Island, off the coast of New Hampshire. I was struck by his unassuming, gentle manner and musical generosity. He welcomes sharing of this song.

Links:
learn about Adam himself: ABOUT — Adam Podd
check out the choral music Adam and his brother arrange: The Podd Brothers
to read more of the writings of Ana Levy-Lyons: Home - Ana Levy-Lyons (analevylyons.com)

Song Learning Time Stamps:
Start time of teaching: 00:03:15
Start time of reprise: 00:13:19

Nuts & Bolts: 3:4, Major, harmonized

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Published on: September 28, 2022

70. As I Relax with guest Lyndsey Scott

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Song: As I Relax
Words & Music: Lyndsey Scott

Lyrics
As I relax, I know my needs are met, And I live my life in joyous anticipation
This draws in what I most desire, So I can live my life in full-on participation

I'm alive to the life in me; I'm alive to the Mystery; ready ready ready ready; Grow!

I let it happen to me; I let it happen through me; I'm molting -- unfolding -- Open

I can feel the future calling, drawing, dreaming, pulling me towards it. I'm letting this Be

Notes: I've shared this song with my pocket song singers online group, meaning I was live-looping it... and the layers are intricate! The different lines interweave closely, creating a dense, beautiful texture. Lyndsey and I enjoy our conversation -- hear her talk about dropping root to choose what to do in the morning and set an intention, about how grief can be a healer, and wealth of teachers and mentors she draws on. Learn which voices still niggle at her, even with all the wisdom she has steeped herself in, and how she includes and cares for those parts, too. When we recorded this, I was in a particularly fragile place, feeling a little unmoored -- I felt better after this time spent talking and singing... more connected, more hopeful. As usual, I left with more questions than I started with... but it feels like a big door has opened and is welcoming me through. Following the links will keep me learning for a good long time!

Songwriter Info: Lyndsey Scott is an artist-goofball-yintennae devoted to priestesSing the Heartland, (literal and figurative). She weaves community singing to empower earth-based spiritual consciousness, and gathers soul circles that, through Song and sacred listening, decompose oppressive scripts that get in the way of freely living the Love we are. With jams that get you skipping easily between the sacred, sexy, and sssssilly : your inner child, exiled banshee, and wise elder are all very invited to the circle.

Song Learning Time Stamps:
Start time of teaching: 00:06:40
Start time of reprise: 01:14:35

Links: Are you ready??? Lyndsey had so many resources to share, so this is the longest set of links yet!

Let's start with links for Lyndsey and As I Relax:
The song is free to share but Lyndsey always welcomes financial and/or networking support if/when folks are so moved.
Lyndsey's website: lyndseyscott.earth
Everything Lyndsey! https://linktr.ee/lila.gaia
We Belong Community of Song: https://www.facebook.com/webelongcommunityofsong
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lyndseyscott
Lyndsey's album on Bandcamp: https://lyndseyscott.bandcamp.com/album/well-held

And now links to things that came up during the conversation -- starting with some of the quotations.

“He who sings, prays twice.” ― St. Augustine
“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” ― E. B. White
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” ― Howard Thurman

Orland Bishop: Orland Bishop (presswarehouse.com)
adrienne maree brown: adrienne maree brown – 'The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.' – camus…documenting my liberation
San Francisco mural by Susan O’Malley: SusanOMalley_Mural_2009-2048x1536.jpg (2048×1536) (rootdivision.org)
Starhawk, “The Fifth Sacred Thing” The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk « Starhawk's Website
Marianne Williamson: Marianne Williamson – #1 New York Times Best-Selling Author
A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume: Foundation For Inner Peace: 8601421955508: Amazon.com: Books
Shireen Amini: Shireen Amini Music Medicine and Shireen Amini
Shelley Tochluk: Living in the Tension & Workshop Series (shellytochluk.com)
Emerald Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/jm/podcast/how-trance-states-shape-the-world/id1465445746?i=1000512752303
Chubby Cree: https://www.instagram.com/p/CbTonaZJL2d/
Laurence Cole: Can’t Do It Wrong / My Life Is So Cuckoo — Laurence Cole
Love Poems from God, translated by Daniel Ladinsky: Love Poems from God: Twelve Sacred Voices from the East and West (Compass) - Stillness Speaks
Grace Lee Boggs: Grace Lee Boggs - Wikipedia
Malidoma Somé and grief ritual: Dr. Malidoma Somé, Phd. | The Legacy of Elder Malidoma Somé
Sibomfu Somé and grief ritual: http://www.sobonfu.com/ Embracing Grief | Sobonfu Somé
Enneagrams – here’s one summary set: Integrative Enneagram Solutions (integrative9.com)
Aretha movie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkKOIQwTiKE
Characteristics of White Supremacy by Tema Okun: Microsoft Word - Okun - white sup culture.doc (whitesupremacyculture.info)
Francis Weller/ five gates: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBfagOEkMi4 Home (francisweller.net)
Liz Rog/Center for Belonging: https://www.centerforbelonging.earth/
Earthkeeper Wisdom School: https://www.earthkeeperwisdomschool.com/
Grief to Action: https://www.holisticresistance.com/grief
Influential album: MC HAMMER - Please Hammer Don't Hurt Em - Amazon.com Music
Lynn O'Brien: https://www.lynnobrien.love/
Artist Lyndsey wishes more people listened to: Briony Greenhill. Album: https://www.brionygreenhill.com/crossing-the-ocean

Nuts & Bolts: 2:2, Minor; 4 layers, one echoed/harmonized

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Published on: August 24, 2022

65. Loving-Kindness with Guest Wendy Luella Perkins

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Lyrics to all six songs shared in this episode
by Wendy Luella Perkins

LOVING-KINDNESS TO THE WHOLE
© April 17-19, 2022 - Wendy Luella Perkins
timestamp in episode: 5'42"
In bed with lots of sciatic pain and began singing loving-kindness to my leg, my ankles, etc (as an add on to my body scan)…later on morning walk this was created.

loving-kindness to my body
loving-kindness to my mind
loving-kindness to each and every joy
and heartbreak of my time
loving-kindness to my spirit
loving-kindness to my soul
loving-kindness to each and every part
loving-kindness to the whole

zipper: your body, our bodies, all bodies

WHEN ALL IS SWIRLING
©2004 - Wendy Luella Perkins
timestamp in episode: 19'31"

when all is swirling in my heart
quiet come
take rest in me

zipper: busy, worry, hurry, troubled, etc

WE’RE ALL CONNECTED
©2020 - Wendy Luella Perkins
timestamp in episode: 21'10"

we’re all connected, bird, cloud and tree
we’re all connected, earth, wind and sea
an interwoven, exquisite tapestry
we’re all connected, breath, you and me

IT'S GOOD TO HAVE A SONG OR TWO
©2022 - Wendy Luella Perkins
timestamp in episode: 35'10"

it's good to have a song or two
when the road gets bumpy
it's good to have a song or two
on this journey

TRUST IN THE POWER
©2021 - Wendy Luella Perkins
timestamp in episode: 48'28"

i'm gonna trust in the power
trust in the power
the power of love
i'm gonna trust in the power
trust in the power
the power of love

zipper: song, care, story, etc.

TO LOVE I DO RETURN
©2021 - Wendy Luella Perkins
timestamp in episode: 55'50"

to love i do return
to love i do return
when my heart breaks open
to this broken world
to love i do return

zipper: song, action, courage, kindness etc.

Notes: Wendy Luella Perkins sings to telemarketers, tells of her brother choosing her for his show-and-tell, and why she has a tik-tok channel. She talks about auditory memory, singing as refuge, and the reclamation of her voice. She describes the transition from singer/songwriter work into the Soulful Singing in 2002, and the challenges unique to this kind of therapeutic singing which is not professional therapy. We have the awkward conversation about money -- is it possible to make a living as a songwriter without commodifying song, which is a birthright? Patty Piotrowski has created the most appropriate beautiful art in my mind because of the generosity and openness of the bloom.

Songwriter Info: Wendy Luella Perkins has been singing and making up songs since she was a very young child. When she was three years old, her older brother, Tim, took her to school as his Show+Tell item saying, “this is my sister Wendy Lu, listen to her sing!” She's been going strong ever since. As a singer-songwriter, Unitarian Universalist community minister, and founder, in 2002 of Soulful Singing (singing meditation for all) Wendy Luella leverages the power of song to build authentic, healing and joyful communities.

A prolific writer of folk songs and meditative chants and supportive guide who helps others to create their own songs, Wendy Luella's greatest joy is to bring friends and strangers together in the transformational circle of song. Wendy Luella has produced three CDs of original music, which you can find on her website. As a response to pandemic restrictions and recognizing the need to keep on singing in community, especially in difficult times, Wendy Luella transitioned Soulful Singing to online sessions in March 2020. Soulful Singers from all over have been gathering online EVERY SINGLE DAY since then and once a week on THURSDAY evenings.

Everyone is welcome to join Soulful Singing via Zoom. Singing daily over the last 875+ days with wonderful folks from Kingston and around the world has encouraged Wendy Luella to share her original songs more broadly in what she calls her “Song Liberation Project” (The SLiP). She has written hundreds of songs and with The SLiP is sharing them one by one on TikTok. Wendy Luella grew up in rural Nova Scotia, and has lived in Kingston Ontario for over 25 years with her sweetheart and fellow musician, Charlie Walker. She loves waking early, walking daily, eating communally, crafting publicly, sharing deeply, gardening bountifully, laughing abundantly and of course, singing soulfully!

Links:
Wendy Luella's website: https://www.wendyluellaperkins.com
and tiktok page: https://www.tiktok.com/@wendyluellaperkins
To email Wendy Luella: info@wendyluellaperkins.com
To join Soulful Singing every day from 9:00-9:45 a.m. Eastern Time, please click here for information: Wendy Luella Perkins | SoulfulSinging
(notice you'll need to email ahead of time to receive a link for joining, so don't leave it to the very last minute!)
Album that mattered: Joni Mitchell, Blue
Songwriter Wendy Lu wishes more people would listen to: Coco Love Alcorn

Nuts & Bolts:
Loving-Kindness: 3:4, major, zipper. Time: 5'42"
When All Is Swirling: 2:2, minor, zipper. Time: 19'31"
We're All Connected: 4:4, major, unison. Time: 21'10"
It's Good to Have a Song or Two: 4:4, major, unison. Time: 35'10"
Trust In the Power: 4:4, major, zipper. Time: 48' 28"
To Love I Do Return: 3:4, major, zipper. Time: 55'50"

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100. Bridging Hearts Song with guest Lisa G. Littlebird

95. Joy To Your Heart with guests Cathy Baker and Dick Jackson

91. You Are Enough

82. Whoever You Are

70. As I Relax with guest Lyndsey Scott

65. Loving-Kindness with Guest Wendy Luella Perkins